(Out) On the Road Excerpt: Travel and Gender Identity Essay
Read a gender identity essay excerpted from my LGBTQ+ travel book, (Out) On the Road!
Read a gender identity essay excerpted from my LGBTQ+ travel book, (Out) On the Road!
Planning an LGBTQ+ road trip? Learn how to find LGBTQ-friendly stops, book inclusive hotels, navigate restroom concerns, and stay safe while enjoying the journey.
Whether you’re feeling nostalgic for your summer camp days as a kid, only this time as your authentic self, or you’re looking for a unique LGBTQ friendly vacation idea, queer camp lets you reconnect with nature and find your people.
When I first started traveling as a queer person, my instinct was to hide. I didn’t tell anyone I was queer. I let people assume my partner was my friend. I skipped traveler hangouts and hostels, avoiding any situation where I might be asked to explain. Over the years, the lying and hiding got to be too much, and I started allowing myself to be more open in moments where that felt safe. But there are still choices I make for LGBT travel safety. In my LGBTQ travel book, (Out) On the Road, I refer to these habits as a travel safety protocol. If you’re looking for a simple system you can use to stay safe while exploring the world, here’s how I do it!
Camping should feel like freedom. It should feel like waking up to fresh air, stretching outside your tent or cabin, and spending time in a place where you can relax into the landscape around you. But LGBTQ camping comes with some extra precautions that mainstream camping advice doesn’t usually address. This LGBTQ camps post breaks down why outdoor vacations can come with unique safety considerations for gay and lesbian travelers, how those concerns shift depending on your travel budget cost and tolerance for roughing it, and what “LGBTQ-safe” actually means in outdoors. Plus, you’ll get a checklist for planning and learn how to enjoy the outdoors instead of staying on edge the whole time.
If your social media feeds and LGBTQ newsletters have been awash with blog post lists of the safest countries to travel if you’re LGBTQ, that’s because Spartacus has just released their new gay travel index. Dive beyond the headlines to the why – including why the US gets their own version of this special list.
Gay travel seems like a shorthand for LGBTQ+ travel. And some creators use it that way. But there’s an important difference. To start understanding gay travel vs queer travel, let’s look at who gay travel is created by and who it’s created for––as well as who gets left out of the conversation when gay is used as shorthand for LGBT.
As a queer traveler, I’ve experienced the discomfort of checking into a hotel and being offered a room with two beds when I’d clearly booked one.
It’s a small interaction, but it can feel alienating—like a subtle reminder that queer couples don’t fit the “default” mold.
The good news? There are LGBTQ friendly hotels out there making a difference – and this post focuses on the major hotel brands that have committed to being LGBTQ inclusive.
If you’re here, you’re probably asking the same questions I hear nonstop: Is this place safe for me as an LGBTQ+ traveler? And what do I need to do to reduce the risk of something bad happening? This LGBTQ+ travel safety checklist is my answer to those questions.
The questions I’m asking myself these days: Whether it’s avoiding Kansas, or organizing politically, or helping trans folks in impacted states move to safer ones, how do we get our cis allies to not just care, but act?